Is Pain During Intimacy Destroying Your Love Life? Try These 4 Things

Jan 31 2023 5 min read

Few things ruin intimacy like pain. Instead of enjoying sex with your partner, you may find it hard to even get in the mood because of the pain you’re experiencing (or expecting). Thankfully, there are proven ways to eliminate pain so you can have wonderful intimacy again.

 Here are 4 ideas that are great at tackling pain:

1. Use Vibratory Stimulation

Vibratory stimulation has been clinically proven to reduce pain during intimacy. Precise frequency vibrations delivered to the painful areas of the vagina & vulva can provide pain relief & increase arousal. The leader in this space is the FDA medical vibrator, Crescendo 2. It was shown to improve Genito-pelvic pain and penetration pain by over 5 times in a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.

This bendable device delivers medical frequency vibrations, precisely where it’s needed, enabling blood flow, pain relief and increased arousal. This releases trigger & tender points on the labia, vulva and vagina, so you can have pain-free intercourse.

2. Relax With Calming Techniques

Pain can cause a vicious cycle. If you are expecting pain, or fear the pain, you are more likely to tense up during intimacy, which can actually exacerbate pain. To combat the anxiety of pain, dedicate time to relax and get in a calm headspace prior to intimacy with a partner. That may include taking a nice, hot bath, meditation, or solo play with a discreet device like Poco to slowly build up your arousal and wetness - enabling you to have pain-free intimacy.

3. Try New Positions

Experimenting with different positions during intercourse may help reduce pain. Being on top will allow you to control the speed, depth of penetration, and change quickly if the pain flares up. Similarly, lying on your side with your partner behind you can help control the depth of penetration and alleviate pain. Tell your partner what feels good (and what doesn’t) so you can both have the most pleasurable experience.

4. Seek Pelvic Floor Therapy

If these options don’t provide relief, consider seeing a pelvic floor therapist (PT). They will provide you with a treatment plan including tailored stretches, exercises, or release techniques to strengthen and relax your pelvic floor. In addition, you will have manual manipulation of the muscles in and around the pelvic floor area, both internally and externally.

Genito-Pain can be a huge issue for your intimacy and can also have a negative effect on your relationship. Try these tips to reduce your discomfort and invest in doctor-recommended devices that are proven to reduce pain and improve arousal.